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Living with Intentionality – Part 3 – Rebuilding Trust

by | Aug 15, 2017 | East District News Webpage, East District Newsletter

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Jeremiah 17:7-8

Happy are those who trust in the Lord,
who rely on the Lord.
They will be like trees planted by the streams,
whose roots reach down to the water.

The words from Jeremiah paint a vivid picture about what trust can do in your life, when you trust in God. You have life and nourishment that leads to growth. From what we see in those words it seems to make sense why the Desert Southwest Conference has named Trust as one of our Core Values. Trust is defined as, “reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.”

It’s one thing to trust God. It is quite something else to trust the people with whom you work or worship or serve on some committee. I have heard it said over and over again that trust must be earned. I have gotten to the point in my faith and life when I have learned that when there is need for a reboot in trust, sometimes you must simply decide to forgive, test the waters again, choosing to let go of your preconceived ideas. So how do you develop trust in a way that allows the presence of God to shine through in all you do?

Here are some of my thoughts. (Maybe you have some thoughts to add as well.)

  1. Work toward a common goal. When people know what the goal is, then it is possible to discuss one another’s part in reaching that goal. Conflict and mistrust arise when people don’t have an understanding about what the common goal is. So talk it through, figure out why you have different goals. Trust God to be present in that type of conversation.
  2. Have relevant and open communication. That means there isn’t retaliation when someone shares something with you that you don’t like or agree with or find hard to hear. People don’t always see things from the same perspective as you do. That doesn’t mean it is wrong or bad. Trust is broken when you cut off conversation, when people don’t feel listened to or valued. Allow God to help you listen and find a way to talk things through, without judgement.
  3. Don’t place blame. Honest mistakes happen. People sometimes will let you down, or fail at doing what it is they promised to do. Pointing fingers, placing blame only destroys trust. Seek creative ways to get beyond the problem to rediscover a common goal, and work together to get there.

If you have someone special in your life, with whom you have a close relationship, perhaps you remember a time you had a real, substantive argument. Maybe things were said deliberately that caused pain. Do you remember what it was like when you knew that you had to make the choice to forgive? What did you think about when you sat next to each other and someone had to make the first move to reconcile? Remember what it was to reach over and take the other person’s hand?

As people of faith, God has taught us about the gift of grace. There have been times when we all have not lived up to the highest ideals of God’s love and yet God still loves us, chooses us, uses us to do amazing things in life.

This week consider a place where trust has been broken. Spend some time in prayer and in reading the Bible. Then make the choice to give it one more chance. Be intentional about rebuilding trust. It takes two working together to get there. (Ok – maybe three when you add God into the mix.)

How will you intentionally rebuild trust in the relationships you have? Write it down – pray about it – do it.

Blessings

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Author: Susan Brims

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