Welcoming and Reconciling Ministries (WARM)

A part of the Reconciling Ministries Network (RMN), the Desert Southwest Annual Conference defines itself as a Conference seeking the reconciliation of all people without regard to their race, socioeconomic class, or sexual orientation since 1993.

The Mission of RMN:

Reconciling Ministries Network equips and mobilizes United Methodists of all sexual orientations and gender identities to resist evil, injustice, and oppression in whatever forms they present themselves.

The language of RMN’s mission comes from the United Methodist baptismal vow, and that’s our charge. Simply put, we work to advance justice and inclusion for all LGBTQ people in The United Methodist Church and beyond.

To journey with a child, friend, or parent who “comes out” (shares with you that he/she/they are LGBTQIW+) can be a confusing one. Below are just a few resources to help you along that journey.  While this list is not exhaustive and does not guarantee there won’t be difficulties along the way, we hope they will help.

Welcome & Reconciling Ministries

Q: What do I say????

A:  Don’t feel bad because you are unsure what to say. There are many different ways to approach a conversation with someone, but these are some great ways to communicate.

  • When in doubt, ask! If you are unsure of terminology or the right words…ask what they are.
  • Use the language you hear. If you hear someone refer to themselves as a transgender female, then refer to her as a transgender female, etc.
  • Make no assumptions. You cannot make assumptions based upon outward appearance. Do not assume that they are open about their sexuality or gender identity to everyone. Do not assume that everyone knows. You may be one of the precious few who have the opportunity to know this part of the other person.
Q: What does LGBTQ mean?

A:  LGBT stands for “lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender. There is a large spectrum along with the sexual and gender identities out there: queer, non-binary, pansexual, just to name a few. Terminology is important for the person you are journeying with and to help with your understanding of and communication with the other person. Here are resources to help with terms you might hear and want to know.

Q: What does it mean to be part of the Reconciling Ministry Network?

A: Reconciling congregations, communities, and campus ministries (RCs) who affiliate with RMN embrace RMN’s commitment to achieving LGBTQ justice and full inclusion in the life and ministry of The United Methodist Church, both in policy and in practice. They engage in the ministry of Reconciliation in two ways:

    1. Outreach, affirmation, and intersectional ministry with and for LGBTQ persons in the local setting.
    2. Creating opportunities to engage in dialogue, build relationships, and advocate for changes to Church policies related to ordination equality, marriage equality, and the availability of funds that help make LGBTQ justice a reality.
Q: How does a church become reconciling?

A: RMN lays this out in an eight (8) step process. The time and energy to become a reconciling church vary. To see this process in-depth, RMN has a section of their webpage specifically for this process: https://rmnetwork.org/get-involved/reconciling-ministry/. There is also a video to help get people started that helps explain the process as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YmYE1kmJJoI